My boyfriend is Mormon, but I don’t share his beliefs. I respect his faith just the same. Will the fact that I don’t profess his same religion be a problem for us? I’m entirely certain he’s the only person I’ll ever love, but I don’t think I should join his religion just because I love him. I shouldn’t force myself to believe in something that I don’t believe. Do you have any advice? I feel like if I decide to believe in God, it’s something that should come from within me, not something imposed on me. Thanks for your time. Please forgive me if this question bothers anyone.
One Response to “Should I accept my Mormon boyfriend’s faith?”
Francisco Rios
2015-08-16 23:15:53
The concept of a united family that lives and progresses forever is at the core of Latter-day Saint doctrine.
Hi friend. I'm happy you posted your question. Let me address several of your points:
1) Religious differences can be serious impediments to a romantic relationship. This is especially true of relationships with active Mormons. Studies have shown that marriages between Mormons and those of other faiths are at high risk for divorce. It would be foolish to ignore this reality.
2) The idea that there is one single person destined for each of us is fiction. For any given person, there are many others in the world who are compatible. It's the beautiful blindness that comes from young love that makes people feel as you've described. That having been said, it may well be that you and your Mormon friend are uncommonly compatible.
3) You're absolutely correct in recognizing that you shouldn't join the "Mormon Church" just because of your boyfriend. Conversion needs to come from within you. God needs to touch your heart, independent of any other factor.
That having been said, it is true that many people get to know the LDS Church through friends, family members, and significant others. I suggest that you 1) talk with your boyfriend about his faith, 2) visit our church meetings to see how we worship, and 3) chat with some of our missionaries. Who knows? Perhaps God will touch your heart, leading to a sincere conversion.
1) Religious differences can be serious impediments to a romantic relationship. This is especially true of relationships with active Mormons. Studies have shown that marriages between Mormons and those of other faiths are at high risk for divorce. It would be foolish to ignore this reality.
2) The idea that there is one single person destined for each of us is fiction. For any given person, there are many others in the world who are compatible. It's the beautiful blindness that comes from young love that makes people feel as you've described. That having been said, it may well be that you and your Mormon friend are uncommonly compatible.
3) You're absolutely correct in recognizing that you shouldn't join the "Mormon Church" just because of your boyfriend. Conversion needs to come from within you. God needs to touch your heart, independent of any other factor.
That having been said, it is true that many people get to know the LDS Church through friends, family members, and significant others. I suggest that you 1) talk with your boyfriend about his faith, 2) visit our church meetings to see how we worship, and 3) chat with some of our missionaries. Who knows? Perhaps God will touch your heart, leading to a sincere conversion.
I hope this answer helps. Best of luck.