I was sealed 13 years ago. My husband has never been a good provider. He has failed to provide even the most basic things for me and our 3 children. I have spoken many times with him, but he shows no interest in changing things. He’s been working at his current lousy job for 11 years. I asked him to switch jobs many times, but he doesn’t listen to me. I’m quite tired of this situation. My question is, if a man does not provide for his family, are there grounds for divorce? Thanks.
One Response to “I was sealed 13 years ago. My husband has never been a…”
Daniel Rubio
2012-06-04 05:50:08
Hi sister. I’m sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with your marriage. In my opinion, there are very few valid reasons for divorce. These reasons include abuse or serial (unrepentant) infidelity. I invite you to discuss your marital issues with your bishop who can help you get through these challenging times.
If a husband refuses to work and so leaves his family starving, one could argue that abuse has occurred. However, that does not appear to be your case. Perhaps I’m mistaken, but it seems to me that your husband is working, but is just not making as much money as you would like. This is a very serious situation, and you and your husband might consider getting help through the bishop and perhaps a marriage counsellor. A wife does have a right to counsel her husband when it comes to questions of employment and family finances. However, it doesn't appear from my limited perspective that divorce would be justified in your case. Your bishop might be able to give you wiser counsel. I hope my opinion, for whatever it is worth, is helpful.
If a husband refuses to work and so leaves his family starving, one could argue that abuse has occurred. However, that does not appear to be your case. Perhaps I’m mistaken, but it seems to me that your husband is working, but is just not making as much money as you would like. This is a very serious situation, and you and your husband might consider getting help through the bishop and perhaps a marriage counsellor. A wife does have a right to counsel her husband when it comes to questions of employment and family finances. However, it doesn't appear from my limited perspective that divorce would be justified in your case. Your bishop might be able to give you wiser counsel. I hope my opinion, for whatever it is worth, is helpful.