I need some help! I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years he is an active mormon and is currently preparing for his mission. I have been an inactive member for a long time, I used to drink alcohol but have stopped since meeting him. But now I feel he’s wants me to return to church and I’m finding it difficult as I dont feel as strong for the church as I once did. I have gone back a few times but I feel like I dont fit in anymore. I love him and dont want to leave him but I dont think I’m the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I’m very confused on what to do?
Focus on the words quoted by President Packer: "There is no habit, no addiction, no rebellion, no transgression, no apostasy, no crime exempted from the promise of complete forgiveness. That is the promise of the atonement of Christ."
Forgive yourself and allow yourself to become fully cleansed through the blood of Christ and his atonement. He died for you, you know? Specifically for you too. Come on back to church we miss you, and I guarantee if you were to go talk to your bishop he would echo these same words.
You are free to choose however you want. Choose life through Christ and his infinite atonement. (See 2 Nephi 2.)
Anonymous
2011-01-24 10:37:44
Through prayer, we can communicate with our Heavenly Father. He's anxious to guide and help us.
You should never re-activate just for someone else. You should re-activate because your heart is changing and you have a sincere desire to follow God. And that can take work. I know you feel strongly for your BF or you wouldn't be here, but the LDS church is a huge commitment that cannot be undertaken lightly, just for the sake of trying to save a relationship. Do it for yourself. I would suggest that you start much smaller. Have you met with the missionaries? I know it might not be the obvious choice since you're already a member but you're part of why they're there. How about reading your scriptures? Try reading just 4 verses a day for a while. And pray about them. Praying is important whether you come back to the church or stay away. Praying keeps your heart open to God's plans for you. And gives you someone to talk to about your fears. You know that God loves you whether you are LDS, Catholic, Muslim, or even atheist right? So talk to him. Tell him what you're afraid of.
Anonymous
2011-01-20 16:33:19
Please do not try to be a certain way for someone else. However, if you truly love him, then he deserves the best you! Give yourself some time to see where you truly stand with the church. Spend time there without him, pray & ask for guidance, even if it is uncomfortable. Only you can make the decision, of course it will be a lot easier with God's help.
I have lived a life of sin and regret. Drinking, pre-marital sexual relations, theft, etc. I found comfort in a talk given by Shayne Bowen entitled "The Atonement can Clean, Reclaim and Sanctify our Lives."
Focus on the words quoted by President Packer: "There is no habit, no addiction, no rebellion, no transgression, no apostasy, no crime exempted from the promise of complete forgiveness. That is the promise of the atonement of Christ."
Forgive yourself and allow yourself to become fully cleansed through the blood of Christ and his atonement. He died for you, you know? Specifically for you too. Come on back to church we miss you, and I guarantee if you were to go talk to your bishop he would echo these same words.
You are free to choose however you want. Choose life through Christ and his infinite atonement. (See 2 Nephi 2.)