I’m not a mormon, but my fiancée is. We’ve had sex before marriage, is that bad? I actually believe in the mormon teachings I’ve heard. Can you give me any advice?

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Miguel Leal
2009-10-25 00:57:24
Hi friend. I'm happy that you are a believer. :) You may not have realized, though, that one of the things Mormons believe is that sexual relations should only occur within marriage. Perhaps unknowingly, you have done great spiritual damage to your fiancée. She needs to see her bishop right away so she can begin the repentance process. You can be a supportive fiancé by encouraging her to make herself spiritually right with God and by deciding together that you will not have sex again until you are married. Sex outside of marriage is a very serious sin. It is only through great effort and the atoning power of Jesus Christ that things can be made right once again.

I assume you believe in the teachings of the Church because your fiancée has taught you about them. I think that's excellent. I'd like to invite you to visit with the Mormon missionaries and to think about joining the Church officially. I've recently written an article entitled "How can I Join the Church?" that you might find helpful. Religious unity is very important in a marriage, and people often look for God when they are making important changes in their lives. Perhaps now is the right time for you.

Best of luck. Let me know if there's anything more I can do to help.

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