Hi, I’ve already had an interview with my bishop regarding me breaking the law of chastity. He told me what to do in my process of repentance. However, for the three or four weeks following my interview, I became weak and gave in to my weaknesses and to the temptations and did things close to the horrible act, but not the act itself. (More than kissing, less than s*x, to be more precise.) Do I have to talk to my bishop again regarding this? And will I have to face the Bishopric Court/Council? Coz Bishop said if I commit the same sin again, I may be facing the Court/Council. HELP!
3 Responses to “Hi, I’ve already had an interview with my bishop regarding m…”
Anonymous
2011-11-10 20:14:57
A missionary hugging a bishop in Aracaju, Sergipe, Brazil.
It is important that you talk to your Bishop about your most recent transgressions. One of a Bishop's many responsibilities is to help the members of his congregtion through the struggles and joys of life. Your Bishop does not want to punish you, but rather wants to help you take all necessary steps of repentance. It is likely the disciplinary council was not mentioned to 'scare' you, but rather to help you understand the severity of your transgressions.
Your age is another important factor contributing to the type of disciplinary actions taken. It is important to note that after confessing the first indiscretions, you immediately repeated the behavior in then window of repentance. This is extremely important; It indicates a larger problem. Did you not understand the transgression severity? Were the acts committed with the same or different individuals? Are you in an abusive relationship? Is there an underlying psychological influence?
Though the transgression is the same, there is a vast difference in the implications of these behaviors by age. Are you a teenager, still in high school? Are you a return missionary who has gone through the temple? Are you married and committing these acts outside the eternal bonds of marriage?
Regardless, you need to apologize to yourself and to the individual(s) for your actions. Your Bishop and possible other Elders will help you to discover how to treat your physical body and spirit with more respect.
Richard Nance
2011-11-11 02:58:02
Court/council is not a scary thing, it is actually a refining process that is put in place to HELP you overcome your weakness.
The problem with most acts of sin is when we do them so many times, our brains form a habit and the act becomes almost voluntary.
Yes get back in with your Bishop and council with him and go through the refining process. Talk to your bishop about the LDS Addiction Recovery Program, and get on your knees and pray for strength as well as guidance so that you can see the seriousness of your situation.
Obviously you are placing yourself, vaulentarily into situations that create your problem, STOP doing that.
I don't know how old you are, but if you are old enough to get married think about that. If you are not old enough then you just need to stop. If you can't stop messing around with the other person seriously think about killing that relationsihp for your own SAKE.. As well as the other person's. (see Matthew 5:30)(Obviously we are not talking about hands here, but the principle is the same)
God didn't send you here to fail, but He respects your agency and will not force you. You need to plead with God to give you strength to get away and do what is right.
Seriosly think about therapy. Again this is something the Bishop can help with. Go see him again!
PS you are strong enough to make it, Choose to do so
Anonymous
2011-11-10 17:16:41
Bishops are there to help and should not be feared. Best thing to do is to try to see him as your friend and share with him what you have just shared with us. He will then help overcome this and develop a plan to avoid it happening again.
Your age is another important factor contributing to the type of disciplinary actions taken. It is important to note that after confessing the first indiscretions, you immediately repeated the behavior in then window of repentance. This is extremely important; It indicates a larger problem. Did you not understand the transgression severity? Were the acts committed with the same or different individuals? Are you in an abusive relationship? Is there an underlying psychological influence?
Though the transgression is the same, there is a vast difference in the implications of these behaviors by age. Are you a teenager, still in high school? Are you a return missionary who has gone through the temple? Are you married and committing these acts outside the eternal bonds of marriage?
Regardless, you need to apologize to yourself and to the individual(s) for your actions. Your Bishop and possible other Elders will help you to discover how to treat your physical body and spirit with more respect.
The problem with most acts of sin is when we do them so many times, our brains form a habit and the act becomes almost voluntary.
Yes get back in with your Bishop and council with him and go through the refining process. Talk to your bishop about the LDS Addiction Recovery Program, and get on your knees and pray for strength as well as guidance so that you can see the seriousness of your situation.
Obviously you are placing yourself, vaulentarily into situations that create your problem, STOP doing that.
I don't know how old you are, but if you are old enough to get married think about that. If you are not old enough then you just need to stop. If you can't stop messing around with the other person seriously think about killing that relationsihp for your own SAKE.. As well as the other person's. (see Matthew 5:30)(Obviously we are not talking about hands here, but the principle is the same)
God didn't send you here to fail, but He respects your agency and will not force you. You need to plead with God to give you strength to get away and do what is right.
Seriosly think about therapy. Again this is something the Bishop can help with. Go see him again!
PS you are strong enough to make it, Choose to do so