Thanks ahead of time for your help. I was an inactive member, but two months ago I came back after 10 years. I have a boyfriend, and we’ve been together for 5 years. He’s Catholic from birth, together with his whole family. We don’t have any children and we don’t live together. But a few days ago we talked about marriage.
I told him I’d love to be sealed in the temple, but that bothered him a lot. He feels that his family’s traditions are more important and that he’d never change religions. I wouldn’t want him to change under pressure anyway.
Sometimes I get to thinking that it would be better if we just got married in his church to avoid problems with his family. But then I get really sad, knowing that I won’t be able to be sealed in the temple.
Please give me some good advice. I don’t know what to think. According to him and his family, I’m the selfish one because I only think in terms of my church. It makes me so sad.
One Response to “Should I give up my dream to be sealed?”
Pedro Bravo
2015-07-12 18:17:10
The San Diego temple in San Diego, California.
Hi Marita. The Catholic Church of course teaches many true principles that bring people closer to Christ. I don't mean to denigrate the Catholic faith that enriches the lives of so many of my friends. But the apostolic authority that Christ gave to His apostles anciently cannot be found in the modern Catholic Church. It's found in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, where it has been restored in our days through modern prophets and apostles.
By that authority, you can be sealed to your future husband for eternity, not just until death do you part. Catholic weddings are also beautiful, but because the apostolic authority is not found in that church, those marriages cannot last forever. All marriages can be beautiful, and even some Mormon temple marriages end in divorce, but I wouldn't give up the chance to have that sealing ordinance in my life for anything.
I encourage you to chat with your boyfriend about just how important these things are to you. He loves you and surely wants you to be happy. Try your best, also, to reach out to his family to make them feel involved in the wedding, even though they can't attend the temple ceremony. There are many other ways to involve them that can help minimize hurt feelings.
By that authority, you can be sealed to your future husband for eternity, not just until death do you part. Catholic weddings are also beautiful, but because the apostolic authority is not found in that church, those marriages cannot last forever. All marriages can be beautiful, and even some Mormon temple marriages end in divorce, but I wouldn't give up the chance to have that sealing ordinance in my life for anything.
I encourage you to chat with your boyfriend about just how important these things are to you. He loves you and surely wants you to be happy. Try your best, also, to reach out to his family to make them feel involved in the wedding, even though they can't attend the temple ceremony. There are many other ways to involve them that can help minimize hurt feelings.
I hope this answer helps. Best of luck to you.