So me and my girlfriend have been dating for around 4 years.. I am protestant, my girlfriend is mormon. We love each other more than anything and would love to get married, but she wants to stay true to her beliefs and get married in the temple. I respect and always have respected all her beliefs and accepted her as she is. However she will not marry me unless I convert. I would love to convert just to be with her, but I feel I need to convert for me too or we will not be happy. So far, I havent been led to convert. Just recently we tried to break up, in fact after 3 1/2 years together we broke up for 5 months. Now we are seeing each other again but nothing has changed. We are 20 years old and family is a really big issue. My family is strongly against Mormon beliefs and me converting, while hers will not accept anyone who Isn’t mormon. I dont feel as if I can just go against my family, even though I know it is what needs to happen for us to be together. Any suggestions on what we should do? Does this make sense? Thanks for your help.
3 Responses to “So me and my girlfriend have been dating for around 4…”
Js
2012-05-23 18:23:19
Through prayer, we can communicate with our Heavenly Father. He's anxious to guide and help us.
Pray about it, both of you, and ask God what he wants of you. You've said what you both want, and what your family want - but what does God want? Family is very important, but when you marry, in some sense you strike off on your own. At present, you're saying "she will not marry me unless I convert. I would love to convert just to be with her, but I feel I need to convert for me too or we will not be happy." This suggests that right now your respective faiths are more important to each of you than getting married to each other. This may change after prayer, many people have joined the Church after meeting another member and have been perfectly happy, but I think you're right that you need to convert for your own sake and not purely because someone else wants you to. If you have studied the Book of Mormon and know in your heart that it is true, you would be prepared to face up to your family and friends -although if they love you, I'm sure that they will only want the best for you and will accept your girlfriend in time. If you don't think it is true, and your girlfriend stands by her convictions, you will need to find someone else and free her to do likewise. That may seem incredibly hard as you've been together for so long, but you are young and there will be many people glad to be with someone as sincere as you. I will pray that you make the right choice.
Glo
2012-05-24 15:37:02
Love and trust Heavenly Father. Ask HIM what to do. See James 1:4-6 in the King James version of the Bible. Find out for your own self if YOU KNOW the Church of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints, if its teachings are true.
Richard
2012-05-22 17:19:48
Get some schooling and get away from each other for a bit, Really, not just 5 months. Work so you can learn to support a family first before you start thinking and debatig marriage.
As per your situation of family and religion, etc. Pray about it, Go read your James 1:5 and ASK God as you appear to lack wisdom in this matter.
PS you are a son of God before your parents and I'm sure your parents just want to see you happy too. If you really want and like this girl, then act on it and go take the missionary discussions and prove it by actions and not just by lip service.
PPS you are still young.. I know it doesn't feel like that, but you are. 20 is nothing in World age, sorry sir... Hey also go take the missionary discussions and go serve a mission for the LDS faith and really learn what this religion is about.
As per your situation of family and religion, etc. Pray about it, Go read your James 1:5 and ASK God as you appear to lack wisdom in this matter.
PS you are a son of God before your parents and I'm sure your parents just want to see you happy too. If you really want and like this girl, then act on it and go take the missionary discussions and prove it by actions and not just by lip service.
PPS you are still young.. I know it doesn't feel like that, but you are. 20 is nothing in World age, sorry sir... Hey also go take the missionary discussions and go serve a mission for the LDS faith and really learn what this religion is about.