I’m having a difficult time. I’m considering divorce. My husband uses pornography but always denies it. Perhaps I’m overreacting and letting it bother me too much, but the truth is that it really affects me. I’ve forgiven him many times but I’m really tired, even more knowing that he rejected his priesthood for these reasons. He also corresponds with “mail order girlfriends.” I live in constant fear of infidelity. I always dreamed of an eternal marriage. Maybe I’m being very selfish to think only of myself and not my daughters. Would the church approve of a divorce or would it recommend a reconciliation? Thank you very much.
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2009-12-28 02:32:19
Hi friend. Divorce is a very personal decision between you, your husband, and God. The fact that you have children makes the decision all the more challenging. If you need some one-on-one counsel, I suggest you talk with your bishop. In a perfect world, divorce would not be necessary. It's only because of the wickedness of the world that divorce is permitted. You need to decide for yourself whether or not your husband's wickedness necessitates divorce.
That having been said, you are certainly not overreacting. Pornography is a very serious sin, and no married man should correspond with any romantic interest other than his wife. Infidelity is not just adultery. Your husband is already committing adultery in his heart; he is already being unfaithful.
You said you've forgiven your husband many times. That's excellent, but the fact that your husband continues to sin shows that he has not truly repented. You should encourage him to talk with his bishop who can help him begin the repentance process. You've committed no sin, but you might want to speak with your bishop as well. He could help you get through these very challenging times.
You said that you have a goal to be married in the temple. That is an excellent goal! As I'm sure you know, your husband needs to change his life if he's going to be sealed to you. I hope he chooses to make these important changes.
May God bless you, friend. Regardless of your decision, I hope you find peace in Jesus Christ.
That having been said, you are certainly not overreacting. Pornography is a very serious sin, and no married man should correspond with any romantic interest other than his wife. Infidelity is not just adultery. Your husband is already committing adultery in his heart; he is already being unfaithful.
You said you've forgiven your husband many times. That's excellent, but the fact that your husband continues to sin shows that he has not truly repented. You should encourage him to talk with his bishop who can help him begin the repentance process. You've committed no sin, but you might want to speak with your bishop as well. He could help you get through these very challenging times.
You said that you have a goal to be married in the temple. That is an excellent goal! As I'm sure you know, your husband needs to change his life if he's going to be sealed to you. I hope he chooses to make these important changes.
May God bless you, friend. Regardless of your decision, I hope you find peace in Jesus Christ.