I hope you can help me. I’m LDS, born in the covenant, and I fell in love with a gentleman who is not a member of the church. He’s a very good person, and we already have a baby together. We’re very much in love, but he doesn’t want to marry me because he’s studying right now. We’re now living in sin. What would you suggest? For my baby?
One Response to “Should I continue to live in sin?”
Gabriel Ramos
2015-08-09 00:18:43
Chastity: What are the limits?
Hi sister. Every child deserves to be raised by a mother and father who love him. You're right to recognize that in an ideal world you and your boyfriend would marry. Unfortunately, he is unwilling to marry you, and you can't force him. Since you aren't apparently asking about marriage (not an option), you seem to be asking whether or not you should continue to be sexually involved with your boyfriend outside of marriage.
The answer is no, you should not continue to be sexually involved with your boyfriend. Sex outside of marriage is harming you spiritually. And it's bringing no benefit to your child, since it's not leading to marriage anyway. (Not that that would justify sin...)
Your boyfriend is trying to exploit you, sister, and you shouldn't let him do that. He's trying to gain some of the advantages of marriage without having to commit to the responsibilities of marriage. If you have any respect for yourself, you should end your romantic relationship with him.
This situation is a little complicated because he is the father of your child. He should continue to be involved in your child's life, offering both time, money, and emotional support to help raise your son. Because of your son, you should continue to be friends with this man. But you should no longer be lovers, unless he's willing to commit to you through marriage.
I also encourage you to return to the church. It will help you spiritually, and it will provide your child with the spiritual support he needs. Talk with your bishop about the mistakes you've made, so you can begin the process of spiritual recovery. I have no doubt that Christ loves you very much and is anxious to have you return to the fold.
The answer is no, you should not continue to be sexually involved with your boyfriend. Sex outside of marriage is harming you spiritually. And it's bringing no benefit to your child, since it's not leading to marriage anyway. (Not that that would justify sin...)
Your boyfriend is trying to exploit you, sister, and you shouldn't let him do that. He's trying to gain some of the advantages of marriage without having to commit to the responsibilities of marriage. If you have any respect for yourself, you should end your romantic relationship with him.
This situation is a little complicated because he is the father of your child. He should continue to be involved in your child's life, offering both time, money, and emotional support to help raise your son. Because of your son, you should continue to be friends with this man. But you should no longer be lovers, unless he's willing to commit to you through marriage.
I also encourage you to return to the church. It will help you spiritually, and it will provide your child with the spiritual support he needs. Talk with your bishop about the mistakes you've made, so you can begin the process of spiritual recovery. I have no doubt that Christ loves you very much and is anxious to have you return to the fold.