Hi. My boyfriend is mormon, and I have been considering converting but it’s not the right time for me and next year he will be going on a mission. We’ve talked about marraige, but in our past we’ve both done sexual things. I’ve heard that the first time you do you’re not allowed to be married in the temple. Is this true? Is there anyway to “wipe the slate clean”?
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Samuel Santana
2010-01-31 21:26:39
A statue of Jesus Christ at temple square in Salt Lake City.
Hi friend. There is a way to "wipe the slate clean." It's called the atonement of Jesus Christ, and it's central to Mormon theology. ;)
As I'm sure you know, sexual sins are very serious. If you have not yet repented of these sins, I encourage you to do so immediately. Even though you're not yet a member of the church, I think it would be excellent if you met with your local bishop or branch president, who can help you with this repentance process. If your boyfriend has not yet repented, encourage him to talk with his bishop as well. You'll both feel much better when you've finally put these sins behind you by applying the atoning sacrifice of our Savior. I'm sure your bishop will be happy to help you with that process. Best of luck to you.
Richard
2010-01-30 05:05:13
A statue of Jesus Christ at temple square in Salt Lake City.
I would recommend Shane Bowen's talk The Atonement can Clean, Reclaim, and Sanctify our Lives. And the answer is, yes there is a way to completely wipe clean yours or anyone's slate. That is what the atonement is all about. Go read the account of the woman taken in adultery during Christ's mortal ministry. How did He handle that? (see Matt 8:1-11)
Usually those who commit sexual sins need to wait at least a year to be sealed in the temple. This can give a desirous couple some time in order to iron out being together, and then when you both still choose you go get married for time and eternity! I invite you to go to God in prayer and ask if it's right. Or rather, follow some revealed doctrine: "...Behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right. But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong;" (Doctrine and Covenants, Section 9:8-9). Beyond that, it is still, your choice to enter the waters of baptism or not, and it shouldn't be based on your needing to be a part of his religion, for his sake, anyway. If you want to join this, the true church of God restored again upon the earth, it needs to be a choice you make regardless of if you're with him or not. Remember there are a lot of fish out in the sea, especially for young, doing the best they know how to do, woman.
Establish yourself first, and then seek out someone with similar interests that you do well with. Then you can, if you've joined the church, move with him into an eternal marriage. If not than best of luck with your life moving forward. God bless! (And he certainly will if you pray and need him too.)
As I'm sure you know, sexual sins are very serious. If you have not yet repented of these sins, I encourage you to do so immediately. Even though you're not yet a member of the church, I think it would be excellent if you met with your local bishop or branch president, who can help you with this repentance process. If your boyfriend has not yet repented, encourage him to talk with his bishop as well. You'll both feel much better when you've finally put these sins behind you by applying the atoning sacrifice of our Savior. I'm sure your bishop will be happy to help you with that process. Best of luck to you.
Usually those who commit sexual sins need to wait at least a year to be sealed in the temple. This can give a desirous couple some time in order to iron out being together, and then when you both still choose you go get married for time and eternity! I invite you to go to God in prayer and ask if it's right. Or rather, follow some revealed doctrine: "...Behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right. But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong;" (Doctrine and Covenants, Section 9:8-9). Beyond that, it is still, your choice to enter the waters of baptism or not, and it shouldn't be based on your needing to be a part of his religion, for his sake, anyway. If you want to join this, the true church of God restored again upon the earth, it needs to be a choice you make regardless of if you're with him or not. Remember there are a lot of fish out in the sea, especially for young, doing the best they know how to do, woman.
Establish yourself first, and then seek out someone with similar interests that you do well with. Then you can, if you've joined the church, move with him into an eternal marriage. If not than best of luck with your life moving forward. God bless! (And he certainly will if you pray and need him too.)