Hi! I have a boyfriend who is LDS. We’re in high school and we’ve been together for almost 5 months. I know that isnt long, but I’ve learned so much from being with him that it feels like a very long time. My family is protestant, but we don’t go to church regularly, even though I wish we did. I try to be close with God, even though its hard because I’m doing it pretty much on my own. I ask my boyfriend sometimes when I have questions, and some of his beliefs seem ‘right’ to be. I dont know why, just a hunch.
His parents are divorced. His mom is atheist, and his dad is mormon. His father doesn’t want me and him to be together because I am ‘distracting’ him from church. I really don’t want to be a distraction. I even plan on going to church with him sometimes. I support him in his mission and everything. We pray together, and talk about God very often. We also aren’t sexually active or anything. Is it right for his dad to feel this way? I’ve never even met his father. Wouldn’t God just want my boyfriend to be happy? My boyfriend has really caused me to to grow spiritually, and I feel like he would be more distracted if we had to break up.
I can truly see myself spending my life with him. We get along very well. We are completely honest with each other, and we talk about everything. He’s my best friend, and my boyfriend. He has also opened my eyes to this amazing religion which I would consider joining someday.
One Response to “Hi! I have a boyfriend who is LDS. We’re in high school and …”
Lucas Silva
2011-09-19 01:26:45
Temples are considered houses of God, places of holiness and peace separate from the preoccupations of the world.
Hi friend. It's excellent that you're discussing religion with your boyfriend and that these discussions are helping you grow spiritually. In fact, it's quite common for people to get to know the LDS Church through loved ones. There are many people who are now members of the Church who have stories similar to yours.
Getting closer to God, like most things that matter in life, does not happen passively. It requires a lot of dedication and hard work. Going to a church is an excellent way to connect with God. The LDS Church is a restoration of Christ's original gospel; it's been a great blessing in my life, and I know it could be a blessing in your life as well. I'm happy you're interested in learning more!
Perhaps this article I recently wrote will help you understand your boyfriend's father's concerns. Every Mormon father dreams that his children will be married in one of our temples, where marriages that last for all eternity (not just "till death do you part") can be performed. It requires a lot of preparation to be married in the temple, however. I'm sure you're a great person, but I think your boyfriend's father is probably naturally concerned at this point wondering if you'll be willing to prepare yourself for a temple marriage, just as your boyfriend is currently preparing himself. Frankly, your boyfriend is probably wondering the same thing. Proper preparation for temple worship requires a lot of hard workÂ… a lot more than just going to church with your boyfriend "sometimes."
Of course it would be a huge mistake to join any church just to please a boyfriend. Conversion should come when God touches your heart. But, since you're sincerely interested in the Church anyway, perhaps it would be good to start going with your boyfriend to church every week and visiting with the LDS missionaries. That way both your boyfriend and his father could see that you're at least giving temple preparation some serious thought.
Getting closer to God, like most things that matter in life, does not happen passively. It requires a lot of dedication and hard work. Going to a church is an excellent way to connect with God. The LDS Church is a restoration of Christ's original gospel; it's been a great blessing in my life, and I know it could be a blessing in your life as well. I'm happy you're interested in learning more!
Perhaps this article I recently wrote will help you understand your boyfriend's father's concerns. Every Mormon father dreams that his children will be married in one of our temples, where marriages that last for all eternity (not just "till death do you part") can be performed. It requires a lot of preparation to be married in the temple, however. I'm sure you're a great person, but I think your boyfriend's father is probably naturally concerned at this point wondering if you'll be willing to prepare yourself for a temple marriage, just as your boyfriend is currently preparing himself. Frankly, your boyfriend is probably wondering the same thing. Proper preparation for temple worship requires a lot of hard workÂ… a lot more than just going to church with your boyfriend "sometimes."
Of course it would be a huge mistake to join any church just to please a boyfriend. Conversion should come when God touches your heart. But, since you're sincerely interested in the Church anyway, perhaps it would be good to start going with your boyfriend to church every week and visiting with the LDS missionaries. That way both your boyfriend and his father could see that you're at least giving temple preparation some serious thought.