Hello. My boyfriend is Mormon, but I am not. I’ve been visiting your church, but my family doesn’t like the idea of me being with someone who is LDS. I have so many questions. For example, if I marry a Mormon, will I have to renounce my family? Will I never be able to see them again? Is the woman considered the property of her husband? Will my whole life have to be dedicated to doing whatever my husband wants me to do for our family?
2 Responses to “My parents don’t want me to date a Mormon”
Samuel Santana
2014-01-19 20:37:10
The concept of a united family that lives and progresses forever is at the core of Latter-day Saint doctrine.
Hi friend. I'm happy you posted your questions here and that you're interested in learning more about our church. It's excellent that you recently visited one of our chapels with your boyfriend. Are you also chatting with some of our missionaries? They're an excellent resource for those who wish to learn more about our faith.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of rumors and misconceptions about our church. I think your family members probably have good intentions, but they have mistakenly accepted as truth some of these erroneous ideas. I'm happy to have the opportunity to clarify these issues for you. Let me answer your questions.
1) Mormons teach that the family is very important. It doesn't matter whether your family members are members of our church or not. You should always love and cherish them. If you do decide to marry your Mormon boyfriend, you should continue to nurture loving relationships with your family members. The purpose of the church is never to break up families.
2) Mormons don't teach that women become the "property" of their husbands after marriage. Husbands and wives are equals before God. It's never appropriate for one person to dominate or manipulate the other. Both should work together, always listening to the concerns of the other, and always trying to honor the feelings and needs of their spouse.
3) Any marriage, whether a Mormon marriage or otherwise, requires a lot of effort. Both husbands and wives should prioritize the happiness of their spouse. However, getting married does not mean you stop living! A married woman, like a married man, can certainly have other interests and responsibilities.
I hope this answer helps. If there's anything that's not clear, please feel free to post a follow-up question. I'm excited that you're learning more about our church, and I'm eager to help as needed. God bless you.
Pamela Bonta
2014-04-14 09:35:11
Mormons value family relationships
I love questions where the answer is simple: no, no, no, and no. :) In fact, becoming a member of our church means that you will work to make sure that you can be with your family forever! We believe that family is so important that our prophets have even issued a proclamation to the world about families!
Unfortunately, there are a lot of rumors and misconceptions about our church. I think your family members probably have good intentions, but they have mistakenly accepted as truth some of these erroneous ideas. I'm happy to have the opportunity to clarify these issues for you. Let me answer your questions.
1) Mormons teach that the family is very important. It doesn't matter whether your family members are members of our church or not. You should always love and cherish them. If you do decide to marry your Mormon boyfriend, you should continue to nurture loving relationships with your family members. The purpose of the church is never to break up families.
2) Mormons don't teach that women become the "property" of their husbands after marriage. Husbands and wives are equals before God. It's never appropriate for one person to dominate or manipulate the other. Both should work together, always listening to the concerns of the other, and always trying to honor the feelings and needs of their spouse.
3) Any marriage, whether a Mormon marriage or otherwise, requires a lot of effort. Both husbands and wives should prioritize the happiness of their spouse. However, getting married does not mean you stop living! A married woman, like a married man, can certainly have other interests and responsibilities.
I hope this answer helps. If there's anything that's not clear, please feel free to post a follow-up question. I'm excited that you're learning more about our church, and I'm eager to help as needed. God bless you.