I am a Mormon girl and have not broken the law of chastity. In 2 years I will be serving a mission (no doubt about it). It is also very important for to get married and sealed in the temple. However, I’m dating an RM that has broken the law of chastity multiple times with his now ex. He says he is repenting. Is there any hope for this relation? What are the eternal implications if we do get married one day?
2 Responses to “I am a Mormon girl and have not broken the law of…”
Lucas Cruz
2013-03-10 23:37:54
Hi sister. If your boyfriend truly repents of his past sins, he can be completely forgiven. He can go on to live a righteous life as a faithful member of the church. He could, if he "endures to the end," eventually obtain exaltation. That's the miracle of forgiveness.
On the other hand, if he's not able to overcome his sinful impulses, any marriage will likely be troubled. Unfortunately, infidelity and pornography use are increasingly common, with both men and women offending at alarming rates. You don't want to be married to someone you can't trust.
You'll have to prayerfully evaluate whether or not your boyfriend is really progressing towards spiritual recovery. I'd proceed with optimistic caution. Best of luck to you.
Pamela Bonta
2013-03-09 06:37:40
Dear Sister, I may be wrong, but I think you have answered your own question. The fact that you are questioning speaks volumes to me. You stated "He says he is repenting." What does this mean? Has he confessed to his bishop and is currently going through the repentence process? Or is he just kind of hoping that he will do it on his own? Just because someone is a returned missionary doesn't mean that they are infallible. I, for example, was married to a returned missionary who was eventually excommunicated.
Now, I don't know this young man that you are dating at all. I am not making a judgment on him at all. But, rationally speaking, he has had issues, it sounds like he is still working through them, and you also said that you have no doubt that you will be serving a mission in two years. Given all this, perhaps you should reconsider developing a serious relationship (not just with him, but with anyone) before your mission. You may also want to review the church's/the Lord's standards on dating to help you decide. https://www.lds.org/youth/for-the-strength-of-youth/dating?lang=eng
On the other hand, if he's not able to overcome his sinful impulses, any marriage will likely be troubled. Unfortunately, infidelity and pornography use are increasingly common, with both men and women offending at alarming rates. You don't want to be married to someone you can't trust.
You'll have to prayerfully evaluate whether or not your boyfriend is really progressing towards spiritual recovery. I'd proceed with optimistic caution. Best of luck to you.
Now, I don't know this young man that you are dating at all. I am not making a judgment on him at all. But, rationally speaking, he has had issues, it sounds like he is still working through them, and you also said that you have no doubt that you will be serving a mission in two years. Given all this, perhaps you should reconsider developing a serious relationship (not just with him, but with anyone) before your mission. You may also want to review the church's/the Lord's standards on dating to help you decide. https://www.lds.org/youth/for-the-strength-of-youth/dating?lang=eng
God bless.