Hi, I am not a LDS member but my boyfriend’s family is. I am meeting them for the first time over xmas this year. I will be going to the church with them for some services. What should I wear there? My boyfriend said knee length skirt is fine. It’s going to be cold in Utah, can I wear boots? Also, I recently dye my hair red. I am Asian so my hair is darker but can see the red very much under the light… Will this be okay. I am open to Mormon faith and I was raised Catholic. I dont want to offend anyone in his family and I also want to make a good impression.
Thank you for taking your time to answer my questions.
4 Responses to “Hi, I am not a LDS member but my boyfriend’s…”
Peter
2012-12-11 10:19:04
Dear red hair ;) It's so cool that you are traveling to meet your Latter-day Saint boyfriend's family. What to wear to church is such a good question. Going to church is not to impress anyone. It is to show respect for Jesus Christ to whom we worship. LDS standards are outlined in the booklet For The Strength of the Youth. Warm coat and winter boots are normal. Most people will leave their coat and boots in the foyer. So bring a pair of shoes to wear at church.
The color of your hair should not matter. Your friend is the best person to ask what the do's and don'ts are in his family's home.
Be polite and be yourself! Have a Merry Christmas.
Anonymous
2012-12-12 14:50:20
Hey, I am a Mormon girl and understand how you feel! Sometimes it is confusing about what exactly is appropriate when going to other services than you are used to.
The chapel is a place of worship, so it is nice to dress respectful. Knee length dress is perfect, but if it is cold, longer than that is just fine! I have seen many people wear boots to church on Sunday, and you don't need to worry about your hair! If the congregation is anything like the Mormons I know, they will love you and accept you from the start.
For tops, we try to make sure that we don't get too revealing, so do that and you'll be fine!
If you have any other questions, ask your boyfriend! I'm sure he is just so excited about having you. If you need to, his mom should be able to help as well.
You won't offend anyone by being there, and I hope you have a good time! Good luck!
Jeff
2012-12-14 08:00:53
Anon, Great question! I wouldn't worry too much about how, specifically, you dress. The Church generally counsels us to wear our "Sunday best" to Sunday meetings, but obviously what that means varies greatly from person to person. As a cultural norm, women do tend to wear skirts or dresses, and men tend to wear button-down shirts and ties, often even suits. However, if somebody shows up wearing something else, s/he certainly won't be turned away. I say if your boots make you comfortable, wear them!
As for your hair, I wouldn't worry about that, at all. Just be yourself. :-)
Pamela Bonta
2013-01-15 18:35:46
Unless your hair is purple and orange striped and cut in a mohawk, you probably won't stand out too much! As for clothing, most women tend to wear skirts below the knee, show little if any cleavage, and have some sort of sleeve so that the top of the shoulder is not showing. Boots are fine to wear, especially if they go well with your skirt. (Not sure I would wear Caterpillar brand footwear with a skirt, but hey!) Most people also tend to stay away from jean material.
The fact that you are concerned about appropriate church-wear should speak volumes to your boyfriend and his family.
The color of your hair should not matter. Your friend is the best person to ask what the do's and don'ts are in his family's home.
Be polite and be yourself! Have a Merry Christmas.
The chapel is a place of worship, so it is nice to dress respectful. Knee length dress is perfect, but if it is cold, longer than that is just fine! I have seen many people wear boots to church on Sunday, and you don't need to worry about your hair! If the congregation is anything like the Mormons I know, they will love you and accept you from the start.
For tops, we try to make sure that we don't get too revealing, so do that and you'll be fine!
If you have any other questions, ask your boyfriend! I'm sure he is just so excited about having you. If you need to, his mom should be able to help as well.
You won't offend anyone by being there, and I hope you have a good time! Good luck!
As for your hair, I wouldn't worry about that, at all. Just be yourself. :-)
The fact that you are concerned about appropriate church-wear should speak volumes to your boyfriend and his family.