I’m bisexual. I married a man and have a beautiful daughter with him. We’re getting ready to be married in the temple, but I’m very attracted to women, even more than before, it seems. What can I do? Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to go to church anymore, since people there know I have had female partners.
One Response to “I’m bisexual. I married a man and have a beautiful daughter with him.”
Manuel Leal
2012-08-06 12:14:24
Hi sister. I'm sorry to hear that you're passing through these challenges. Sexual issues like these can be very difficult to deal with.
It is not a sin to have bisexual feeelings, just like it's not a sin to have homosexual or even heterosexual feelings. We are not able to always control the momentary impulses we might have. What we can control, however, are our actions. Are we intentionally cultivating inappropriate thoughts? Are we choosing to put our feelings into practice by breaking the commandments of God? It is only then that we have sinned. Even Jesus, who was sinless, was tempted, showing us that temptation is not the same thing as sin.
It is common in marriage for people to have troubling feelings. Some are bothered because they have heterosexual feelings for people other than their spouse. However, in the end it doesn't matter whether these feelings are bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual. Either way, the feelings themselves are not sinful, as long as they are not intentionally cultivated or acted upon.
If you have repented of your past mistakes, who cares if others know what you have done? If they judge you, they are the sinners, not you, because you have repented. In the end, it's only God's opinion that matters. As long as you have made things right with Him, you have nothing to worry about. If there are people who judge you in the church, they do not deserve your friendship. Don't treat them rudely, but seek out more those in the church who are understanding and kind.
I hope this answer helps! I know God will bless you as you continue to do the right thing. Best of luck.
It is not a sin to have bisexual feeelings, just like it's not a sin to have homosexual or even heterosexual feelings. We are not able to always control the momentary impulses we might have. What we can control, however, are our actions. Are we intentionally cultivating inappropriate thoughts? Are we choosing to put our feelings into practice by breaking the commandments of God? It is only then that we have sinned. Even Jesus, who was sinless, was tempted, showing us that temptation is not the same thing as sin.
It is common in marriage for people to have troubling feelings. Some are bothered because they have heterosexual feelings for people other than their spouse. However, in the end it doesn't matter whether these feelings are bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual. Either way, the feelings themselves are not sinful, as long as they are not intentionally cultivated or acted upon.
If you have repented of your past mistakes, who cares if others know what you have done? If they judge you, they are the sinners, not you, because you have repented. In the end, it's only God's opinion that matters. As long as you have made things right with Him, you have nothing to worry about. If there are people who judge you in the church, they do not deserve your friendship. Don't treat them rudely, but seek out more those in the church who are understanding and kind.
I hope this answer helps! I know God will bless you as you continue to do the right thing. Best of luck.