Hi, I’ve multiple questions regarding marriage… Please forgive me if I’m asking too much.
I want to get married on the temple, Can I choose which temple to marry in? In instance, I’m from México, and I want to marry in Cardston, Alberta temple. It’s so special to me because I saw my future fiancee and I getting married in it, without knowing the existence of such temple. I saw it in a dream (believe it or not) and then opened the Ensign, I was amazed to see the exact temple I saw when I was dreaming.
Also, I want to serve a mission, however, and this is something I just got curious, I am allowed to get marry civilly, serve my mission, and then get married in the temple?
As said before, I want to serve my mission, however I’m giving my best effort to achieve it. My family’s not agreeing with it, and if I choose to go when I finish my college (it’s the only choice I’ve got), it may bring some troubles with them… What difference exists with serving a mission alone between 18-25 years old, and serving a mission with your wife when both are retired?
Another, and I think my last question would be (don’t take me the wrong way, I’m just trying to learn about certain things), If I marry civilly before marrying in the temple (I don’t know, maybe a year or so before) is it allowed to have sex with my wife? Would it affect in our temple marry?
Temples are considered houses of God, places of holiness and peace separate from the preoccupations of the world.
Hi brother. I'm happy you posted your questions here. Let me answer each of them.
1) Your dream about the temple is very interesting! Members of the Church can get married in whatever temple they want. Many members choose to marry in the temple nearest their home because it is convenient for their families, but the decision is entirely up to them.
2) Young missionaries can only serve if they are single. In the early years of the Church young married missionaries were sometimes called, but current Church policy does not permit such callings now days.
3) I'm sorry to hear that your family doesn't support your desire to serve a mission. That can be a very difficult situation. There are a number of differences between serving a mission early in life and serving after retirement with your wife. While both kinds of missionaries are critically important, God has specifically asked young men who are able to serve missions before they marry. A mission provides a spiritual foundation on which one can build a life of faithfulness. Of course many members of the Church who don't serve missions are still wonderful people. That goes without saying. But missions definitely bring a lot of spiritual blessings to those who serve them.
4) Whenever possible, the church encourages its members to be married in the temple rather than marrying civilly first. However, those who marry civilly can prepare for a temple marriage a year later. Since they are husband and wife following the civil marriage, they can be intimate just as any other husband and wife could be.
I hope these answers help! Best of luck to you with all these important decisions you're making in your life.
P.S. Your English is excellent!
Anonymous
2012-03-18 18:49:48
1) You can select the temple you want to be married in.
2) Young men cannot serve if they are married. The sequence you should think about is going on a mission then getting married in the temple. I am not familiar with laws in your country, but you should plan on being married in the temple rather than in a civil ceremony unless your country laws require otherwise.
3) You should have a discussion with your Bishop regarding your desire to serve a mission and your family situation as well as making a matter of prayer. Anyone here will not be able to provide you the personal guidance you will get directly from your Father in Heaven and/or your Bishop. I have known elders who have served in situations such as yours. I am aware or some whose families have softened and become members of the church as a result of this service. I have also known those whose families never seemed to understand the decision. However, I have never known one of them that regretted serving a mission. God will bless you if you serve a mission as a young man. There will not be any other experience like it, even if you go with your spouse later in life.
4) If you are married (either in a civil or temple ceremony) you are married. As long as sexual relations are within that marriage, there should not be any issue with you going to the temple later.
Melissa
2012-03-12 14:45:59
If you are a prepared member and have a temple recommend, you can get married in any temple you want. In order to serve a mission, you have to go through the temple first.
If you are married civilly first, you can have relations with your spouse before you go through the temple. It would not affect your ability or worthiness to get sealed in the temple. Of course, ideally you would want to get married in the temple first!
1) Your dream about the temple is very interesting! Members of the Church can get married in whatever temple they want. Many members choose to marry in the temple nearest their home because it is convenient for their families, but the decision is entirely up to them.
2) Young missionaries can only serve if they are single. In the early years of the Church young married missionaries were sometimes called, but current Church policy does not permit such callings now days.
3) I'm sorry to hear that your family doesn't support your desire to serve a mission. That can be a very difficult situation. There are a number of differences between serving a mission early in life and serving after retirement with your wife. While both kinds of missionaries are critically important, God has specifically asked young men who are able to serve missions before they marry. A mission provides a spiritual foundation on which one can build a life of faithfulness. Of course many members of the Church who don't serve missions are still wonderful people. That goes without saying. But missions definitely bring a lot of spiritual blessings to those who serve them.
4) Whenever possible, the church encourages its members to be married in the temple rather than marrying civilly first. However, those who marry civilly can prepare for a temple marriage a year later. Since they are husband and wife following the civil marriage, they can be intimate just as any other husband and wife could be.
I hope these answers help! Best of luck to you with all these important decisions you're making in your life.
P.S. Your English is excellent!
2) Young men cannot serve if they are married. The sequence you should think about is going on a mission then getting married in the temple. I am not familiar with laws in your country, but you should plan on being married in the temple rather than in a civil ceremony unless your country laws require otherwise.
3) You should have a discussion with your Bishop regarding your desire to serve a mission and your family situation as well as making a matter of prayer. Anyone here will not be able to provide you the personal guidance you will get directly from your Father in Heaven and/or your Bishop. I have known elders who have served in situations such as yours. I am aware or some whose families have softened and become members of the church as a result of this service. I have also known those whose families never seemed to understand the decision. However, I have never known one of them that regretted serving a mission. God will bless you if you serve a mission as a young man. There will not be any other experience like it, even if you go with your spouse later in life.
4) If you are married (either in a civil or temple ceremony) you are married. As long as sexual relations are within that marriage, there should not be any issue with you going to the temple later.
If you are married civilly first, you can have relations with your spouse before you go through the temple. It would not affect your ability or worthiness to get sealed in the temple. Of course, ideally you would want to get married in the temple first!