I have broken the law of chastity and he wants to get married and I am not so sure if I am ready. I know that we would not be able to go to the temple for a marriage but would getting married civily be better than breaking up? I would not marry him if it was not for this happening.
3 Responses to “I have broken the law of chastity and he wants to get marrie…”
Manuel Castro
2010-10-31 23:52:00
Jesus Christ is central to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which bears His name.
Hi friend. When breaking the law of chastity leads to pregnancy, marriage is generally encouraged, since every child deserves to grow up in a home with a mother and a father. In these cases, if marriage isn't possible, adoption is encouraged.
In your case, though, it seems that you're not pregnant. Breaking the law of chastity alone is not a good reason to get married, especially if you would not be marrying him otherwise.
You've committed a serious sin, but with the help of your bishop, you can apply Christ's atoning sacrifice and recover spiritually. You'll eventually find a man you really want to marry, and you can be married to him in the temple. In my opinion, marrying a man that you're not excited about marrying just because you've broken the law of chastity would be a big mistake! Instead, if I were you, I'd focus on my own spiritual recovery for now, and then on building a healthy relationship with someone who could marry me in the temple.
K.G.
2010-10-31 06:01:02
If you weren't going to marry him before this happened, then I wouldn't. Marriage is a big decision, I recently was married in the temple myself. Believe me, nothing is better, more special and precious than a temple marriage. So, if you feel like you want a forever marriage, then go for it!! Make amends with our Savior and work towards that temple marriage. Civil marriage is nowhere near close to the sacredness and awesomeness :) of a temple marriage. We covenant with our spouse and God and we have our husbands eternally. Imagine being with the love of your life and wonderful (future) kids forever and ever. Talk to your bishop. Tell him what goals you have in life (temple marriage) he loves you and will help you. The Savior loves you too. He is there with open arms waiting for you. I know he knows your struggles and pain. Let him take it from you, let him lift the burden. Please.
John S
2010-10-31 17:34:54
Marriage is about love. Love is trust and true happiness. You shouldn't feel a need to get married because you feel guilty for having sex. Never get married because of sex. Stop having sex and get to know each other better. If this is true love, you will get married in the temple. If you can't wait it means you guys are too physically motivated and you might want to chill in that department. The physical stuff fades and you're left with either a best friend, or a possible divorce. Again, never get married for a chastity reason. Don't do it for the reason you mentioned. It has nothing to do with sex.
In your case, though, it seems that you're not pregnant. Breaking the law of chastity alone is not a good reason to get married, especially if you would not be marrying him otherwise.
You've committed a serious sin, but with the help of your bishop, you can apply Christ's atoning sacrifice and recover spiritually. You'll eventually find a man you really want to marry, and you can be married to him in the temple. In my opinion, marrying a man that you're not excited about marrying just because you've broken the law of chastity would be a big mistake! Instead, if I were you, I'd focus on my own spiritual recovery for now, and then on building a healthy relationship with someone who could marry me in the temple.