My now-ex boyfriend is mormon, and I’ve been thinking about converting. He is 17, while I am 15. We still have feelings for each other, but we commited a few sins (not sex!) and we are calling this a “break” while he changes in order to be ready for his mission. I understand why he wants to change, and I want to convert but it is not the right time for me. Should I convert now, so we can be together after his mission? Or wait until I am ready (even if it’s during his mission) so we can be together afterwards?
2 Responses to “My now-ex boyfriend is mormon, and I’ve been thinking about …”
Brendan
2009-12-05 06:50:35
I think it's wonderful that you have gotten to know someone that you care about so much, and that you would consider being together after his mission. I also think its a great sign of love, respect, and maturity on your part to encourage and support him in his decision to serve a full-time mission.
As far as your own personal conversion is concerned I think it is a separate decision all together from your relationship with this young man. I would encourage you to really study and prayerfully approach God about whether or not this is indeed his restored church here on the earth. Study the Book of Mormon and find out for yourself whether it is true or not. Do it for you, and for no one else (even your boyfriend), and everything will fall into place the way it should. The decision to "be converted" to a church should be a personal decision made by conviction that God only can give to you. I know that God lives, and I know that he has revealed truths through living prophets in our day and age to bring us to him, and to convert us to his true gospel, to be converted to Jesus Christ. Your conversion will come naturally as you study and ask God for a confirmation of these truths just as I have.
I hope that helps. Best regards, and may God lead you as you make these important decisions.
Pamela Dean
2009-12-05 00:21:09
Dear friend, You have answered your own question! If this is not the right time for you, as you say, then you should not be baptized. Continue to pray, read the scriptures, meet with missionaries, and attend church and meetings as often as possible. You will know when you are ready, and when that time comes you will blessed with the opportunity to be baptized.
As far as your own personal conversion is concerned I think it is a separate decision all together from your relationship with this young man. I would encourage you to really study and prayerfully approach God about whether or not this is indeed his restored church here on the earth. Study the Book of Mormon and find out for yourself whether it is true or not. Do it for you, and for no one else (even your boyfriend), and everything will fall into place the way it should. The decision to "be converted" to a church should be a personal decision made by conviction that God only can give to you. I know that God lives, and I know that he has revealed truths through living prophets in our day and age to bring us to him, and to convert us to his true gospel, to be converted to Jesus Christ. Your conversion will come naturally as you study and ask God for a confirmation of these truths just as I have.
I hope that helps. Best regards, and may God lead you as you make these important decisions.