I recently became active in the church again, I had left the church when I was 14 I am now 28 with 4 kids and married, my husband is a strong non believer and he refuses to even talk about church, can I be sealed to my kids without him!!
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Jessica from Stockton,
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Mateo Campos
2009-10-04 03:01:21
Hi Jessica. Welcome back to the church! Typically, we are sealed as complete families; sealings require at a minimum a husband and a wife. I suggest that you continue to serve as an example for your husband. He may resist the church now, but in time he will see the church's positive influence on you and your children. When I was a missionary, I met a man whose wife and children had been members for many years. It was only after years of seeing their good examples that his heart was finally softened. Never give up. Faith, prayer, and fasting can work miracles.
If your husband never does come around, you can be sealed to him vicariously in the next life. Elder Dallin H. Oaks once said something that I think may be applicable to your situation: "Through the merciful plan of our Father in Heaven, persons who desire to do what is right but through no fault of their own are unable to have an eternal marriage in mortal life will have an opportunity to qualify for eternal life in a period following mortality, if they keep the commandments of God and are true to their baptismal and other covenants."
Bet of luck to you!
Richard
2009-10-03 21:18:48
This is a dificult question to answer as it is so very delicate. Paul's letter to the corinthians teacjes, "Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord." (1 Corinthians 11:11) Luckily later-day prophets have revealed additional truths. Howard W. Hunter once described celestial marriage as "the crowning gospel ordinance" and clarified that "while it might take somewhat longer [for some] perhaps even beyond this mortal life," it would not be denied to any worthy individual (Teachings of Howard W. Hunter, Ed. Clyde J. Williams [1997], 132, 140).
From this we find probably your best course of action, and that is to do the best you are able in your situation, praying constantly for strength to endure as well as for your husband's heart to be softened for the sake of his family (see Matt 5: 44 and 3 Nephi 12: 44)
Last I would recomend that you talk to your bishop and ask for his counsel on the subject. Perhaps he can give you additional counsel as he is the one authorized to receive inspiration from God for you.
Best of luck we all need it and simply know that through it all Christ knows your pain and is willing to walk with you for your own sake and the sake of your children. God bless you sister and I pray that He will.
Pamela Dean
2009-10-03 13:29:49
If he never accepts the gospel in this life, a year after he dies you can be sealed to him, and then your children can be sealed to the both of you. Or so I'm told by friends who are in a similar situation.
If your husband never does come around, you can be sealed to him vicariously in the next life. Elder Dallin H. Oaks once said something that I think may be applicable to your situation: "Through the merciful plan of our Father in Heaven, persons who desire to do what is right but through no fault of their own are unable to have an eternal marriage in mortal life will have an opportunity to qualify for eternal life in a period following mortality, if they keep the commandments of God and are true to their baptismal and other covenants."
Bet of luck to you!
From this we find probably your best course of action, and that is to do the best you are able in your situation, praying constantly for strength to endure as well as for your husband's heart to be softened for the sake of his family (see Matt 5: 44 and 3 Nephi 12: 44)
Last I would recomend that you talk to your bishop and ask for his counsel on the subject. Perhaps he can give you additional counsel as he is the one authorized to receive inspiration from God for you.
Best of luck we all need it and simply know that through it all Christ knows your pain and is willing to walk with you for your own sake and the sake of your children. God bless you sister and I pray that He will.