Im a 21 year old female and ive been a year a member of the LDS church i have broken the law of chastity and im so scared of repenting and being ex communicated..Nothing in my life wants to work out for me I feel like God is punishing me,mayb prayer and asking for forgiveness is not enough..im so scared and dont know what to do whenever i want to go i back out and then end up seeing my ex boyfriend again well he wants nothing to do with me anymore cause he has moved on..i just want my life back and be happy im tired of the pain and crying please help 🙁
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Miguel Castro
2015-12-06 21:12:13
Chastity: What are the limits?
Hi sister. I'm happy you made the important decision to join the church. I hope you find a lot of peace in this beautiful religion.
I can tell you've done a good job learning about the law of chastity. As you know, chastity is a very important principle in our church. You understand that importance, and you're not trying to excuse your behavior. That's the first step on the way to repentance.
There's another principle taught in the church that's even more important. And it may be that you haven't yet fully understood that principle. It's the principle of repentance and forgiveness, through Jesus Christ.
You have made a serious mistake, but you absolutely can recover from it spiritually. God the Father loves you so much that He sent His Son Jesus to help you overcome exactly this kind of problem. Through Christ, you can recover your happiness and peace once again.
A life of sin can be cleansed and changed through the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
I love this scripture from Isaiah: "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool" (Isaiah 1:18). I know these beautiful words apply in your case too.
The first step is to chat with your bishop. He's the man God has asked to help you apply Christ's atonement in your life. Confess you sins to him, and he'll be happy to help you get back on the right spiritual path.
I hope this answer helps!
John
2016-01-03 23:05:04
For members of the church, Jesus Christ is the divine Son of God, our Savior and Redeemer through whom salvation is made possible. (Reflections of Christ)
It is clear that you are in deep pain, and that your heart is also in the right place wanting to move past these mistakes and fill your life with light again. I think that there are 3 things which are most helpful for you to know right now:
1. God is on your side. He wants you to heal and find joy every bit as much as you want that for yourself. He loves you, you are truly His daughter and are precious to Him.
2. The atonement of Jesus Christ provides the way (the only true way) for you to have this healing and forgiveness.
3. You need to talk to your bishop, who will help you. It is absolutely normal to feel very nervous to talk to someone about our mistakes, but Satan is using that to try to keep you from healing. Your bishop is meant to guide you in healing. His goal is to help you learn, to find the strength to make the correct choices in the future, and feel relief, forgiveness, and joy. The advice and steps he advises are not to punish, only to help you receive the blessings of the atonement of Jesus Christ.
You can be completely clean and whole from this sin, and will be every bit as worthy as though it had never happened. I think of Isaiah 55:7:
7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man (or woman) his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
I know the Lord will have mercy on you, as He has done for me so many times! He is so generous with His forgiveness!
Grandpa Chet
2015-12-07 08:10:42
Here's a verse which gives me tremendous hope. May it do the same for you.
Behold, (s)he who has repented of (their) sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more. (Doctrine & Covenants 58:42)
I wish I could put that in italics and BOLD it. Because - just imagine! The Atonement of Jesus Christ is SO powerful, that even HE does not remember a sin which He has washed away!
I can testify that, when I was the secretary to a wonderful bishop, that neither he nor I could remember the names or faces of anyone who was going through the repentance process - once we left the bishop's office. We could remember, and set appointments over the phone, schedule, etc. - when we were IN his office, but not once we left. (Made it difficult for me to set appointments, let me tell you!) This is evidence to me that our Savior and Heavenly Father "play by their own rules" and completely wash away sins.
Grandpa Chet
2015-12-07 08:13:26
PS: Please remember that the world thinks "excommunication" means "shunning" and "no longer being loved." The real meaning of "excommunication," in the fullness of the Gospel, is to receive help from your ward, accept any spiritual discipline from the Holy Ghost, and receive back the blessings that the sin or sins have blocked.
I can tell you've done a good job learning about the law of chastity. As you know, chastity is a very important principle in our church. You understand that importance, and you're not trying to excuse your behavior. That's the first step on the way to repentance.
There's another principle taught in the church that's even more important. And it may be that you haven't yet fully understood that principle. It's the principle of repentance and forgiveness, through Jesus Christ.
You have made a serious mistake, but you absolutely can recover from it spiritually. God the Father loves you so much that He sent His Son Jesus to help you overcome exactly this kind of problem. Through Christ, you can recover your happiness and peace once again.
The first step is to chat with your bishop. He's the man God has asked to help you apply Christ's atonement in your life. Confess you sins to him, and he'll be happy to help you get back on the right spiritual path.
I hope this answer helps!
1. God is on your side. He wants you to heal and find joy every bit as much as you want that for yourself. He loves you, you are truly His daughter and are precious to Him.
2. The atonement of Jesus Christ provides the way (the only true way) for you to have this healing and forgiveness.
3. You need to talk to your bishop, who will help you. It is absolutely normal to feel very nervous to talk to someone about our mistakes, but Satan is using that to try to keep you from healing. Your bishop is meant to guide you in healing. His goal is to help you learn, to find the strength to make the correct choices in the future, and feel relief, forgiveness, and joy. The advice and steps he advises are not to punish, only to help you receive the blessings of the atonement of Jesus Christ.
You can be completely clean and whole from this sin, and will be every bit as worthy as though it had never happened. I think of Isaiah 55:7:
7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man (or woman) his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
I know the Lord will have mercy on you, as He has done for me so many times! He is so generous with His forgiveness!
Behold, (s)he who has repented of (their) sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more. (Doctrine & Covenants 58:42)
I wish I could put that in italics and BOLD it. Because - just imagine! The Atonement of Jesus Christ is SO powerful, that even HE does not remember a sin which He has washed away!
I can testify that, when I was the secretary to a wonderful bishop, that neither he nor I could remember the names or faces of anyone who was going through the repentance process - once we left the bishop's office. We could remember, and set appointments over the phone, schedule, etc. - when we were IN his office, but not once we left. (Made it difficult for me to set appointments, let me tell you!) This is evidence to me that our Savior and Heavenly Father "play by their own rules" and completely wash away sins.